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iPhone is Suffering [Guest Blog]

by Dawid Dahl

The Dalai Lama famously states:

“No matter our situation, we all share the same aspiration for happiness.”

Therefore, since I too think we all like being happy, and because one is not happy if one is suffering (duh), I will take the liberty of speaking a little on a method I know from personal experience has an extraordinary capacity to alleviate suffering.

My hope with this article is that you might find the method useful as well, insofar as it can release suffering.


What is Suffering Anyway?

First, what is suffering? What is it we’re now going to try to alleviate? Personally I like to break down suffering into four categories, all which of course are arbitrary and very closely related:

Suffering from lack.

Suffering from dissatisfaction.

Suffering from uncertainty.

Existential (philosophical) suffering.

Let’s take a close look at various kinds of suffering below, and how they fit with these categories:

  1. To have what one does not desire  (Suffering from dissatisfaction).
  2. Not to have what one desires (Suffering from lack).
  3. To loose the good that one already has  (Suffering from dissatisfaction).
  4. Not to lose the bad that one already has  (Suffering from dissatisfaction).
  5. Longing for the good that one does not yet have  (Suffering from lack).
  6. To fear the bad that one does not yet have  (Suffering from uncertainty).
  7. To fear losing the good that one has  (Suffering from uncertainty).
  8. To fear not losing the bad that one has  (Suffering from uncertainty).
  9. To be in the state of confusion regarding phenomena and how they exist or don’t exist (Existential suffering).

I would like to use an iPhone to illustrate how suffering can be related to it, and then, how it can be alleviated. I use an iPhone because many people can relate to it, but by all means, if you are an Android, Blackberry, Nokia or Windows Phone user—please feel free to substitute “iPhone” for your own device. If you don’t have a phone at all, use something that’s precious to you.

Now, let’s have a look!


iPhone is Suffering

Suffering from lack:

  • You don’t have an iPhone, but you want one.
  • You have an iPhone, but you want one more.
  • You have an iPhone, but you need iPhone accessories and you need them now!


Suffering from dissatisfaction:


  • You have an iPhone, but you don’t want it. Or you want another one, maybe the white version, or the all-new model coming out in just a couple of months.
  • You have an iPhone, but you dropped it and the glass is all cracked.
  • You have an iPhone, but you feel the monthly subscription fee is too high.

Suffering from uncertainty:

  • You have an iPhone, but you didn’t buy insurance and you are afraid it might get stolen, or that you might break it. Or you worry you might not be able to pay the subscription fee.
  • You have an iPhone, you enjoy and take pride in it, but you’re afraid your best friend might buy the newer, better model…
  • You don’t have an iPhone, and you are afraid you might never be able to afford one.


Existential (philosophical) suffering:


  • You have an iPhone, but you are confused about what an iPhone ultimately is. Does it exist, or does it not exist? Perhaps both, perhaps neither?
  • You have an iPhone, but you’re thinking a lot about what the mind’s relation to the iPhone is. Hmm…


Let the Search Begin!

Oh boy, that’s a lot of suffering! But I think there’s a way to stop all this suffering from bugging you. At least, it works surprisingly well for me.

What if, just what if, you searched for the iPhone, and it curiously turned out that you simply couldn’t find it? What if you looked everywhere the iPhone could possible be, but no iPhone was found? If you couldn’t find any iPhone anywhere, then it’d seem to me all the suffering spoken about above simply wouldn’t have a chance to arise. You can’t possibly burn wood that you don’t find, right? In the same way, I think suffering can’t arise if you can’t find an iPhone.

So let’s carefully look for this iPhone. Let’s use our eyes, let’s point with our fingers, let’s use our minds.

The Same as its Parts:

If an iPhone exists, it is either the same or different from its parts. Let’s start by searching for the iPhone as the sum of all its parts. The parts being the display, the battery, the antenna, the processor, the memory, the cameras, the home—and volume buttons, the casing, the audio speakers, etc.

Think intently about an iPhone. Is this an iPhone that is one with, and the same as, its many parts? This seems obvious enough. But let’s look a bit closer. If the iPhone is the same as its parts, there are two alternatives: either it is the same as all the parts as a whole, or is it the same as them individually. If it is exactly the same as all the parts, then what if one part goes missing? If the audio speakers goes missing, does that mean the iPhone becomes utterly nonexistent? It doesn’t seem that way. It would be an iPhone without audio speakers.

Also, just as the iPhone clearly is a single entity, so the parts would have to (absurdly) be a single entity. Because of these strange consequences, the iPhone can’t be exactly the same as all the parts as a whole.

But is the iPhone then exactly the same as all its parts individually? Well, if it was, then since the iPhone has many parts, it would have to mean that there are many iPhones! But clearly, we think about the iPhone as a single entity, not as several. We say “I just bought an iPhone.” We don’t say “I just bought iPhones” if we just bought a $659 iPhone.

Different from its Parts:

Strange! It seems we couldn’t find the iPhone as being the same as its parts. But there is only one alternative left, namely that the iPhone must be naturally separate and different from its parts. But, if the iPhone is wholly different from its parts, then why would it need its parts at all? Try to point at the iPhone. When you do, what do you point to? Always to the parts, right? You don’t just point out into space, or at a Blackberry—or an Android phone. But if the iPhone wasn’t the parts at all, it would make no sense to point at the parts, since the iPhone is supposed to not have anything to do with them…

The World’s Happiest iPhone Owner

Now this is strange!

There are no more alternatives. Or if there are more alternatives, I’ve noticed they are variations or combinations of the two mentioned above, both of which were found to be unfeasible. So, with our eyes we looked for the iPhone, which obviously could cause so much suffering, but we couldn’t find it. We tried to point with our fingers at it, but we couldn’t, because no matter where we pointed, we couldn’t find the iPhone there. We tried to find it with our minds, but we didn’t seem to be able to form a solid concept of it.

To me, this non-finding is remarkable, marvelous, awesome! Because this means, as said earlier, that it’d be nonsensical to assume that the iPhone could cause you any of the four kinds of suffering. Just as it would be nonsensical to assume that a rope you, in a dark room, mistake for snake can bite you; or to assume that a desert mirage can quench your thirst.

I’ll close by saying that I believe that you, if you have an iPhone, can easily be the world’s happiest iPhone owner. The reason being that, in a very practical sense, you are not an iPhone owner, with all the suffering that comes with that. Nor will you ever—even if you lose your iPhone—be an iPhone non-owner, with all the suffering that comes with that.



Dawid Dahl is from Stockholm Sweden. Dawid organizes the Integral Monastery, a collaborative vehicle of urban monks who seek to integrate profound spirituality with life in a modern context.

The site’s blog is a creative outlet, covering themes such as: Non-duality, Art, Monasticism and Integral.

When Dawid is not running the Integral Monastery website, he plays in a black metal band in Stockholm.

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6 responses

  1. pureseeing

    Fantastic post, dear Dawid, said Siri (or did she?)
    and many kind greetings right from Cupertino!

    February 20, 2012 at 1:18 am

  2. So clever Dawid! Great teaching article!

    February 25, 2012 at 2:51 am

  3. Mike

    If someone is suffering, then they are suffering. If they are not then they are not. Your argument seemed to make the suffering disappear by saying that the iPhone didn’t really exist.

    If a car was racing towards you, you could enjoyably pretend that the car didn’t exist, however you would soon find out that you were wrong.

    Sometimes spirituality twinned with ego (the one we pretend has disappeared) can make us more egotistical than ever. The real test of ‘enlightenment’ is when someone appears genuinely down to earth and doesn’t talk about it much. I have fallen for the complete spiritual ego-trip before… I guess it isn’t my place to suggest that you may have fallen for it too! It only leads to suffering for ourselves and others, so best to drop it!

    May 8, 2013 at 12:13 pm

    • Hi Mike,

      Thank you for your comments and interesting take on the “i-phone is suffering” guest post.

      Yes it does seem that some self-realized folks are prone to like to talk a lot about it and or offer satsang, books, videos, sessions (Ad nauseam). And some of the most “enlightened” folks you will ever | never meet are very private/humble/down-to-earth or ‘genuine’ as you described it.

      With Peace (from Here),

      C.Matthew King

      November 6, 2013 at 7:54 pm

  4. dilip

    i phone is the name of an experience you might be having with this ‘ thing’ in your hands.

    its neither the parts or the whole.

    not having an iphone is also an ‘ iphone ‘ experience.
    so my problem is not the iphone but the iphone experinece.

    so how do we stop suffering caused by an IPHONE EXPERIENCE.

    i ought to change the experinece …and how do i do that ?

    watch closely how the experience is being created in the first place.
    when you see yourself in your minds eye holding the iphone…
    are you also creating a imaginary smile on your imaginary face.

    that’s the key. realize that the phone dosnt create the smile.
    you do.

    the phone cannot exist whthout your ATTENTION.
    the moment you think about ICE-CREAM…the phone dissappears from your mind.

    my leaving words………..to stop suffering…de-construct the images you create when thinking about an IPHONE…..

    separate the living from the dead
    seperate the ‘ smile ‘ from the metalplastic thing( iphone ) in your hands.

    try it now.

    January 9, 2014 at 3:29 am

    • Hi D,

      Thanks for commenting and for sharing your thoughts on the post.

      We appreciate continuing dialog on the various topics | articles that we publish!

      Best Regards,

      C.Matthew King

      January 17, 2014 at 1:40 am

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