Moving from Ego to Essence in Relationships
Review: Matthew K.
Are you sabotaging the love that is possible in your relationships? Have you ever wished you could unlock the love that is your true nature and express it fully?
Loving in the Moment offers a spiritual approach to transforming relationships by showing you how to let go of preconceived ideas and judgments. By moving beyond your ego and conditioning, you can create a richer, more loving life for yourself and those you care about. You have the power to determine how much love you experience in any given moment.
The main focus of Gina Lake’s writing and teaching is to help people be in the present moment and live the happy and fulfilled life that is possible. Gina accomplishes this by shedding light on the programming that interferes with awakening to one’s true nature.
This book focuses on relationships and is delivered in Gina’s loving, light/conversational writing style. And this is precisely what allows the material to be easily understood and lived. But don’t be fooled, it’s not only about relationships—her insights are applicable to all areas of your life.
In these crazy times, lots of folks are needing help, and so it’s beneficial for someone to break-it-down for us.
We know that every being in the world cannot possibly understand everything that the past sages or teachers such as Nisargadatta or Ramana Maharshi are saying in their quotes or writings. Perhaps you’ve never heard of more contemporary teachers/authors such as Byron Katie or even Eckhart Tolle (which her writing is often compared too). And that’s OK. Gina has the life experience and ability to make these concepts clear and easy to grasp for anyone struggling in their relationship or daily lives.
On a more personal note…
This book was sent to me at a very trying time as my mother had just suffered from a stroke and my family and I were just trying to cope as best as possible. I would read the lovely passages from the book each day after returning from a long, grueling day from the hospital and it was such a breath of fresh air!
Many months later, when my mother was able to return home, she noticed the striking “blue” book in my hands and inquired about it. I let her check it out. I figured she would read a little bit of it and just put it down. Well, she basically confiscated the book from me [temporarily] and read the book front-to-back and enjoyed it wholeheartedly!
The central message that she picked up on, was the fact that love is always available to us and that was very transformative for her. These words are genuine, heartfelt and easy to “get”…even for a recent stroke victim, who could barely read at the time. Now that says something!
Of course, being grounded in the present moment or aware of your inner-chatter/thought stream is not an easy task for most people. The unchecked “egoic mind” can certainly wreak havoc in our daily lives. The EGO is crafty!
You may be asking: “what to do now? or “where do I start?”
Don’t worry, as she offers up plenty of valuable advice on how to overcome these “obstacles” throughout the book.
Loving in the Moment offers profound insights and practical advice about:
• How the ego interferes with love and happiness
• How to move beyond romantic illusions
• How to recognize, find, and sustain a meaningful relationship
• How to overcome anger, judgments, criticism, and resentment
• How to resolve common issues, such as infidelity, money, commitment & sexual differences
• How to see the Divine in another
At the end of the day, we humans are creatures of habit and many of us allow our [past] conditioning to run our [present] lives—usually on auto-pilot, and oblivious to the myriad of ways in which our habits gradually take over the wheel and steer us down the wrong path. Some of us need a gentle nudge in the right direction, others are so lost they are not even remotely close to the highway!
Gina offers both “drivers” and “passengers” alike—the insightful guidance and gentle encouragement you might need to change certain elements in your life. Learning about this is not always comfortable either…all relationships are either working or not working.
As the old saying goes: “it takes two to tango” but to find (true and lasting) love it takes knowing and loving oneself first. For most couples, it’s hard to keep the various types of judgment and blame out of relationship. A lot of people spend their hard-earned money on workshops, private coaching sessions, couples retreats, and or self-help books. We’ve all read those before.
Let it be known, however this is not such a book [meaning the type that you read once and then toss out shortly afterwards!]. Gina is pointing to our true essence which is what we are in the most basic sense and not something we cannot ultimately learn to be. We can only recognize it within ourselves by seeing through the egoic mind.
Whether you’re in a relationship or not…this is a book you will come back to again and again for inspiration.
If you appreciate practical advice and assistance with various obstacles, then I am happy to recommend this book. This book is such a gem!
Gina also has several other books you may be interested in checking out and a website/blog with book excerpts and lots of other material to sample.
*Click here to enjoy a complimentary chapter excerpt from Loving In the Moment.
Gina Lake is a spiritual teacher who is devoted to helping others awaken and live in the moment through her books, online courses, and intensives. She is the author of many books, including: Embracing the Now, Radical Happiness, Trusting Life, Return to Essence, What About Now?, Anatomy of Desire and Getting Free.
She is also a gifted intuitive with a master’s degree in counseling psychology and over twenty years experience supporting people in their spiritual growth.
Her website [Radical Happiness] offers information about her books, free e-books, book excerpts, a monthly newsletter, a blog, and audio and video recordings.
“Although you are responsible for what you do with your conditioning, you aren’t responsible for the fact that it’s there. It’s just the programming you were given. Seeing this will help you detach from the conditioning and not act on it.”
“You can’t keep judgments from arising because they aren’t under your control or anyone else’s, but you can decide to do nothing about a judgment.”
“It is our nature to love, to be gentle, to be kind. When all thoughts drop away or aren’t given attention, love is our natural response to life. The only thing that ever interferes with love is a thought, usually a judgment or fear. These are the enemies of true love.”